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Porn. Betrayal. The stuff nobody says out loud.

You're not broken. You're carrying something you were never meant to carry alone.

I'm Austin. I spent 20 years hiding a porn addiction that blew up my marriage — and I've spent the years since helping men get free and helping the women they hurt heal. If you're here, something already told you it's time. Let's talk.

No gimmicks, no shame, no hiding the ball. This is what I do for a living, and I'll tell you exactly how it works and what it costs.

Which one are you?
For men

It was never really about the porn.

It's what you reach for when you're anxious, lonely, numb, or not enough. The goal isn't to "stop watching" — it's to become a man who doesn't need to hide. That's a different, better fight. And you don't have to fight it alone.

Austin Hamilton
Meet Austin
Austin Hamilton

I'm a husband, dad of three, and a coach in Phoenix — and I do this work because I lived it. For 20 years I hid my porn use, and it escalated into an affair that nearly cost me my marriage. The decade since I confessed in 2017 has been a bittersweet journey — I plunged into the sorrow of my story, both for my own healing and for the restoration of our marriage. Honestly, only God could have done that.

That's where I found real redemption — where the very place of my deepest harm became the source of my healing and my calling. It's why I trained to do this for real: a certified coach with Level 1 and 2 Unwanted Guide training. What that means for you: no judgment, and no white-knuckling a streak. You'll be met where you are, helped to make sense of the story underneath the behavior, and walked toward the life you actually want — until hiding isn't something you need anymore. Shame dies the moment it's said out loud, and you don't have to say it alone.

The Men's Support Group

$199 / month

A weekly group of men done doing this alone — honest, accountable, moving forward together.
Led by Austin · Weekly on Zoom · 75 min · Tuesdays 9:00pm ET & Wednesdays 3:00pm ET

What you get
  • A trustworthy space to be seen in your struggle — without judgment or shame
  • Honest accountability with men who get it — you're not doing this alone
  • Help making sense of the story underneath the behavior, not just white-knuckling a streak
  • Room to explore the shame and the longing driving it, and bring it into the light
  • Practical steps toward the man — and the intimacy — you actually want
In their own words

"I'm a member of Austin's group and I meet with him personally. Being part of this community has changed my life — it's not a porn-and-sex problem, it's a how-we-live-our-life problem. I strongly encourage anyone suffering to reach out."

— Group member · Men's Support Group

"Since starting the private group sessions, my relationship with my girlfriend improved — and so did the way I feel about myself. Knowing I wasn't alone, having others to relate to while kicking a porn addiction, helped a tremendous amount."

— In recovery · Men's Support Group

"I told Austin he saved my wife and I's relationship. The porn was tearing us apart piece by piece. Now I'm 23 with a kid on the way, feeling amazing. He saved my life."

— Veteran, 23 · Men's Support Group
For women

What you're feeling isn't insecurity. It's betrayal trauma.

The obsessive checking, the not-sleeping, the rewriting of every memory — that's a real, documented response to betrayal. You didn't cause it. You can't control it. You don't deserve it. And you can heal whether or not he ever changes.

Katelyn Swanson
Meet Katelyn
Katelyn Swanson

Katelyn co-leads the Women's Support Group alongside Austin — and she's here because she's lived it. When she discovered her husband's porn use, the betrayal devastated her. What changed everything wasn't a quick fix; it was finally finding language for what she was going through — betrayal trauma. Naming it let her stop feeling crazy, be truly seen, and begin to heal in community with women who understood. She's walked that road with others ever since, leading support groups where women aren't alone in it anymore.

That's what she creates for you. With Katelyn you'll be believed — never told you're insecure or "too much." You'll come to understand that what you're feeling is trauma, not a flaw in you; you'll get real ways to steady a body and mind that won't stop spinning; and you won't carry any of it by yourself. Her heart — and the heart of her platform, An Honest Love — is that you'd know what it actually feels like to be loved honestly.

The Women's Support Group

$199 / month

A group for betrayed partners, co-led by Austin and Katelyn, walking this road together so you're not isolated in it.
Weekly on Zoom · 75 min · Tuesdays 7:30pm ET

What you get
  • A trustworthy space to be seen in your pain — and finally believed
  • Language for what you're living: betrayal trauma, not insecurity or being "too much"
  • Tools to steady a spinning mind and a body that won't settle
  • Understanding of the "betrayal bind," so you stop feeling crazy for your reactions
  • Healing in community with women who get it — whether or not he changes
In their own words

"Joining a group was community I didn't know I needed. Knowing I wasn't alone — that others were experiencing the same and willing to listen — gave me so much confidence going through this journey of betrayal trauma."

— On the betrayal-trauma journey · Women's Support Group

"You create a safe place for healing. I know most of my growth was because of the group — it helped me in so many ways."

— Member · Women's Support Group

"When I was going through it, I felt so isolated — like no other woman was experiencing the same betrayal I was. But we healed. We have two kids now, our marriage is thriving, and we've even been able to help other couples through it."

— Betrayed & healed · Women's Support Group
Not sure yet? Start here.

Start with a Clarity Call.

Whether porn has had its grip on you, or his betrayal has knocked the ground out from under you, jumping on a 30-minute call with Austin or Katelyn is a great place to start. You'll get honest clarity about what's really going on underneath — and a real picture of what healing and freedom could look like for you. No pressure, no judgment. Just a clear next step and a vision worth walking toward.

Straight answers

Questions people actually ask.

Is this therapy?

No. It's coaching and peer support — not clinical therapy. If what you need is a licensed therapist, I'll tell you that honestly.

Will the group judge me?

No. It's people in the exact same fight. Shame dies when it's finally said out loud to people who get it.

What if I've tried everything?

Most people here have. The work isn't white-knuckling a streak — it's becoming someone who doesn't need to hide. That's a fight you can actually win.

Do I have to be religious?

No. Everyone's welcome, wherever you are.

One step. Not your whole life figured out.

Just a Clarity Call, or a seat in a group where you're not alone.