I'm Austin. I spent 20 years hiding a porn addiction that blew up my marriage — and I've spent the years since helping men get free and helping the women they hurt heal. If you're here, something already told you it's time. Let's talk.
No gimmicks, no shame, no hiding the ball. This is what I do for a living, and I'll tell you exactly how it works and what it costs.
"Being part of this community has changed my life." — a group member
What you're living isn't random, and it isn't proof that something's wrong with you. People who've spent careers studying this have language for it — and finding the right words is where the healing starts. See which one sounds like your life right now.
Whether it's a behavior you can't stop or a betrayal you can't unsee, what you're carrying has a name — and people who've spent their careers studying it have already mapped the way through. Here's the path, before we ever talk about a group.
It feels like a willpower problem. It isn't. In years of research with thousands of people, Jay Stringer found that unwanted sexual behavior is rarely random — it's shaped by your story. The specific things you reach for are a map, pointing back to old wounds, the places you felt powerless, and the longings that never got met.
That's why white-knuckling fails and shame only feeds it. As counselor Adam Young puts it, the way through runs through your story, not around it. When you finally make sense of what happened to you — and what it set in motion — the behavior starts to lose its grip. Not overnight. But for real.
The obsessive checking. The not-sleeping. Replaying every memory, hunting for what you missed. You're not crazy and you're not insecure — you're living betrayal trauma, a real and documented response to being deceived by the person you trusted most.
Betrayal-trauma expert Michelle Mays calls the hardest part the "betrayal bind": the one person you'd normally run to for comfort is the very one who caused the wound. That's why it's so disorienting, and why you can't just "get over it" alone. But with the right understanding and the right people around you, you can heal — whether or not he ever changes.
You don't need another streak to white-knuckle, or another reason to feel like a failure. You need honest men in your corner and someone who's walked this road — so the goal stops being "don't watch" and starts being the man who doesn't need to hide anymore. That's what this is.
I'm a husband, dad of three, and a coach in Phoenix — and I do this work because I lived it. For 20 years I hid my porn use, and it escalated into an affair that nearly cost me my marriage. The decade since I confessed in 2017 has been a bittersweet journey — I plunged into the sorrow of my story, both for my own healing and for the restoration of our marriage. Honestly, only God could have done that.
That's where I found real redemption — where the very place of my deepest harm became the source of my healing and my calling. It's why I trained to do this for real: a certified coach with Level 1 and 2 Unwanted Guide training. What that means for you: no judgment, and no white-knuckling a streak. You'll be met where you are, helped to make sense of the story underneath the behavior, and walked toward the life you actually want — until hiding isn't something you need anymore. Shame dies the moment it's said out loud, and you don't have to say it alone.
About what two therapy sessions cost — for a whole month of support.
Cancel anytime — no awkward conversation. And if your first month isn't the right fit, just tell us and we'll refund it. Not sure yet? Start with a free Clarity Call.
"I'm a member of Austin's group and I meet with him personally. Being part of this community has changed my life — it's not a porn-and-sex problem, it's a how-we-live-our-life problem. I strongly encourage anyone suffering to reach out."
"Since starting the private group sessions, my relationship with my girlfriend improved — and so did the way I feel about myself. Knowing I wasn't alone, having others to relate to while kicking a porn addiction, helped a tremendous amount."
"I told Austin he saved my wife and I's relationship. The porn was tearing us apart piece by piece. Now I'm 23 with a kid on the way, feeling amazing."
You didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you don't deserve it. What you need now is a place to be believed and women who actually get it — led by someone who's lived it. You can heal here, whether or not he ever changes.
Katelyn co-leads the Women's Support Group alongside Austin — and she's here because she's lived it. When she discovered her husband's porn use, the betrayal devastated her. What changed everything wasn't a quick fix; it was finally finding language for what she was going through — betrayal trauma. Naming it let her stop feeling crazy, be truly seen, and begin to heal in community with women who understood. She's walked that road with others ever since, leading support groups where women aren't alone in it anymore.
That's what she creates for you. With Katelyn you'll be believed — never told you're insecure or "too much." You'll come to understand that what you're feeling is trauma, not a flaw in you; you'll get real ways to steady a body and mind that won't stop spinning; and you won't carry any of it by yourself. Her heart — and the heart of her platform, An Honest Love — is that you'd know what it actually feels like to be loved honestly.
About what two therapy sessions cost — for a whole month of support.
Cancel anytime — no awkward conversation. And if your first month isn't the right fit, just tell us and we'll refund it. Not sure yet? Start with a free Clarity Call.
"Joining a group was community I didn't know I needed. Knowing I wasn't alone — that others were experiencing the same and willing to listen — gave me so much confidence going through this journey of betrayal trauma."
"You create a safe place for healing. I know most of my growth was because of the group — it helped me in so many ways."
"When I was going through it, I felt so isolated — like no other woman was experiencing the same betrayal I was. But we healed. We have two kids now, our marriage is thriving, and we've even been able to help other couples through it."
Whether porn has had its grip on you, or his betrayal has knocked the ground out from under you, a free 30-minute call is a great place to start. You'll get honest clarity about what's really going on underneath — and a real picture of what healing and freedom could look like for you. No pressure, no judgment, no cost. Just a clear next step and a vision worth walking toward.
No. It's coaching and peer support — not clinical therapy. If what you need is a licensed therapist, I'll tell you that honestly.
No. It's people in the exact same fight. Shame dies when it's finally said out loud to people who get it.
Most people here have. The work isn't white-knuckling a streak — it's becoming someone who doesn't need to hide. That's a fight you can actually win.
No. Everyone's welcome, wherever you are.
Yes. What's said in the group stays in the group — that's the first agreement everyone makes, and we hold every member to it. We don't share names or stories outside the room. The only thing we'd ever act on is someone being in real danger; short of that, your honesty is safe here.
Just a free Clarity Call, or a seat in a group where you're not alone.