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Porn. Betrayal. The stuff nobody says out loud.

You're not broken. You're carrying something you were never meant to carry alone.

I'm Austin. I spent 20 years hiding a porn addiction that blew up my marriage — and I've spent the years since helping men get free and helping the women they hurt heal. If you're here, something already told you it's time. Let's talk.

No gimmicks, no shame, no hiding the ball. This is what I do for a living, and I'll tell you exactly how it works and what it costs.

Which one are you?
For men

It was never really about the porn.

It's what you reach for when you're anxious, lonely, numb, or not enough. The goal isn't to "stop watching" — it's to become a man who doesn't need to hide. That's a different, better fight. And you don't have to fight it alone.

Austin Hamilton
Meet Austin
Austin Hamilton

I'm a husband, dad of three, and a coach in Phoenix — and I do this work because I lived it. For 20 years I hid my porn use, and it escalated into an affair that nearly cost me my marriage. The decade since I confessed in 2017 has been a bittersweet journey — I plunged into the sorrow of my story, both for my own healing and for the restoration of our marriage. Honestly, only God could have done that.

That's where I found real redemption — where the very place of my deepest harm became the source of my healing and my calling. It's why I trained to do this for real: a certified coach with Level 1 and 2 Unwanted Guide training. What that means for you: no judgment, and no white-knuckling a streak. You'll be met where you are, helped to make sense of the story underneath the behavior, and walked toward the life you actually want — until hiding isn't something you need anymore. Shame dies the moment it's said out loud, and you don't have to say it alone.

The Men's Support Group

$199 / month

A weekly group of men done doing this alone — honest, accountable, moving forward together.
Led by Austin · Weekly on Zoom · 75 min · Tuesdays 9:00pm ET & Wednesdays 3:00pm ET

What you get
  • A trustworthy space to be seen in your struggle — without judgment or shame
  • Honest accountability with men who get it — you're not doing this alone
  • Help making sense of the story underneath the behavior, not just white-knuckling a streak
  • Room to explore the shame and the longing driving it, and bring it into the light
  • Practical steps toward the man — and the intimacy — you actually want

"[Placeholder — a real quote from a man in this group will go here. Send the actual quotes and I'll swap them in.]"

— Member, Men's Support Group
For women

What you're feeling isn't insecurity. It's betrayal trauma.

The obsessive checking, the not-sleeping, the rewriting of every memory — that's a real, documented response to betrayal. You didn't cause it. You can't control it. You don't deserve it. And you can heal whether or not he ever changes.

Katelyn Swanson
Meet Katelyn
Katelyn Swanson

Katelyn co-leads the Women's Support Group alongside Austin — and she's here because she's lived it. When she discovered her husband's porn use, the betrayal devastated her. What changed everything wasn't a quick fix; it was finally finding language for what she was going through — betrayal trauma. Naming it let her stop feeling crazy, be truly seen, and begin to heal in community with women who understood. She's walked that road with others ever since, leading support groups where women aren't alone in it anymore.

That's what she creates for you. With Katelyn you'll be believed — never told you're insecure or "too much." You'll come to understand that what you're feeling is trauma, not a flaw in you; you'll get real ways to steady a body and mind that won't stop spinning; and you won't carry any of it by yourself. Her heart — and the heart of her platform, An Honest Love — is that you'd know what it actually feels like to be loved honestly.

The Women's Support Group

$199 / month

A group for betrayed partners, co-led by Austin and Katelyn, walking this road together so you're not isolated in it.
Weekly on Zoom · 75 min · Tuesdays 7:30pm ET

What you get
  • A trustworthy space to be seen in your pain — and finally believed
  • Language for what you're living: betrayal trauma, not insecurity or being "too much"
  • Tools to steady a spinning mind and a body that won't settle
  • Understanding of the "betrayal bind," so you stop feeling crazy for your reactions
  • Healing in community with women who get it — whether or not he changes

"[Placeholder — a real quote from a woman in this group will go here. Send the actual quotes and I'll swap them in.]"

— Member, Women's Support Group
Not sure yet? Start here.

A $1, 30-minute call.

For men battling unwanted sexual behavior and for women facing betrayal trauma. We get on a real call, I hear your actual situation, and we find a way forward. It's a dollar so money is never the reason you don't reach out.

Straight answers

Questions people actually ask.

Is this therapy?

No. It's coaching and peer support — not clinical therapy. If what you need is a licensed therapist, I'll tell you that honestly.

Will the group judge me?

No. It's people in the exact same fight. Shame dies when it's finally said out loud to people who get it.

What if I've tried everything?

Most people here have. The work isn't white-knuckling a streak — it's becoming someone who doesn't need to hide. That's a fight you can actually win.

Do I have to be religious?

No. Everyone's welcome, wherever you are.

One step. Not your whole life figured out.

Just a $1 call, or a seat in a group where you're not alone.